OK, so I have to confess. I’ve been doing a great job tracking my time, but I’m not too pleased with the results. However, it’s not the normal culprits. I’m not watching too much television. I’m not spending too much time on the computer. On some level, I wish those were the issues. Those are fairly simple to correct-just stop doing them. No, my issues are a little more complex. I’m scattered. Not a good thing for a type A mom who likes to keep her home and life running like a well oiled machine. The more scattered I am, the more scattered I feel and well…
Coffee this morning with a friend and then a lengthy call with yet another friend and business partner, I realized once again I am not alone. We moms seem to find ourselves in this state of feeling scattered more than we like. As I was asked, “When do we get our lives back? When does everyone else quit needing us?” I have asked that same question many times from a place of fatigue, feeling pulled in too many directions knowing I’m not doing anything well. Sometimes, we have simply taken on too much, but often, especially during this Second Season, the needs arise and it falls on us to take care of. At the same time though, I can set up unrealistic expectations of myself. I think this is often the case. Out of a desire to be a great wife, mom, friend, co-worker, follower of Christ, I try to meet all needs. But, it always ends the same. I am tired, I drop a ball or two, and nothing gets done well. I’m there. I could spend the day beating myself up, but that won’t solve a thing. Instead, as I continue tracking my time, I’m going to give myself some grace. After all, the whole point of my 31st mini retreat day is to re-evaluate, clean out and prepare.
What can I do to be less scattered?
1. Make a list of 3 things that HAVE to be done today.
2. At 3:00 p.m. stop everything and see where I stand on those 3 “have to ” items.
That last one can get me. I preach it to my girls and yet so often I let things/people/events distract me and I never quite finish. And so very often, it’s just 5 more minutes and the job would be done. So over the course of the next few days I am going to really focus on the finish. I have a feeling by the 31st what needs to be on my “to do” list will be clear. I have a feeling a few unexpected problems will have been solved. I’ll have the 31st to get my plan in order and set out to work the plan until the next 31st rolls around.
So, today, join me and finish strong. You don’t have to do it all. It will be good enough to just finish those 3 HAVE to items.