As a professional organizer, I find the greatest mistake people make in managing their time/lives, is NOT knowing when to QUIT. We don’t like to QUIT-quitting is for losers. I disagree. Quitting is the sign of someone who knows their abilities and their limits. You see, we CAN’T do it all. Every day I see people attempting to do just that-do it all. They post on Facebook, they blog, they seek guidance … We all find ourselves in that place at times. It is hard to QUIT. It takes a lot of courage to QUIT. It takes determination to QUIT.
When your house looks like this (see below), you realize it is time to QUIT.
We are moving. We are moving by choice (getting to build a new home). The problem is, life doesn’t stop because we chose to move. Work doesn’t slow down, mothering tasks don’t wait, family needs don’t cease to exist. No, life marches on. I could attempt to be “SuperMom”, but I’ve been down that road and have yet to have any real success. I could attempt to squeeze moving tasks into an already full day, OR I can face reality and QUIT something. All too often we attempt to restructure our days or rearrange our priorities. There will be no success in doing either of those. When we are faced with a major project/life event, the only solution to staying organized (and sane) is to quit something already on our plate. What did I quit? I quit blogging. I don’t blog for a living. I’d love to one day garner referrals or some income from blogging, but for now I blog as a hobby, a means of accountability and to engage with others through social media. As I reviewed my goals, the projects on my plate, it became apparent I needed to QUIT blogging. I can’t add hours to my day or days to my week. I can only work within the parameters of a 24 hour 7 day week. God designed it that way. Time is finite. The move will happen (actually we have to make 2 moves as a result of a quick sale of our current home-but who’s to complain in this market!?!) It will take a few months, and there will be need for some “settling/nesting” time. That’s OK. I will blog when snippets of time become available. But mostly, my time will be focused on this new life event/project. I’ll quit blogging so I can make the new event/project a priority. I’ll quit blogging so I can focus on the tasks at hand and enjoy this opportunity. I’ll quit blogging because I simply don’t have time to blog and move. I will QUIT so I can move.
If you are struggling to find time for everything please consider the following:
1. STOP-step back and make a list of all your priorities/projects.
2. ASSESS-which priorities/projects are non-negotiables-you CAN NOT give them up. Be honest. Can any of them be delegated? Will quitting one of them mean the end of the world?
3. IDENTIFY-name the priority/project that can be put on hold or discarded permanently.
4. CREATE-a new priority and map out all of the tasks leading to its completion.
5. PLUG IN-assign the tasks to specific weeks/days and if possible time slots.
6. LET GO-be free from guilt over quitting. Trust the opportunity will still exist when the new priority/project is completed. Enjoy what you have opportunity for now.