I am often asked how I do it all. On the one hand I am somewhat honored/flattered, but more often than naught it makes me twinge and feel a little guilty. While I want to daily present and be the best I can be, I never want to present an illusion, I never want to seem to be more than I am. I am imperfect. I sin daily. My family sees my bad side, and that makes me sad. I do not do it all. I used to want to. I used to strive to. I used to believe I could. But there is no magic- no magic wand, no magic formula, no magic planner, no magic system, no magic container, no magic home.
I am fairly organized. I function better in a cleaned up, uncluttered environment. That’s my nature, the way God wired me. I also believe God is a God of order and desires we, especially as women, create order and beauty in our lives. He created us to create and complete. However, I have learned the real key to organization is discipline. I prefer to think of how I live my life in those terms. Am I living a disciplined life? Do I honor God and His precepts with my choices, my words, my actions? I do not do it all, because I no longer attempt to do it all. There are a lot of things I say “No” to. There are a lot of things I desire to do, but I know God has reserved for another season. Living that way, and that way only, enables me to do what I need to do, no more. In that I can find rest and peace. I no longer have to rush, chase the illusive “do it all” mantra. I can let go and enjoy the very best God has for me. I have times where I take on too much, lose sight of the “best” and run after the “good”. Fortunately though I have built in some disciplines that provide me time and opportunity to step back and take notice when these things happen and I can recover, before life spins out of control.
Disciplines to a more balanced/organized life:
- Daily quiet time with God BEFORE the day begins.
- Pray over daily calendar.
- Know priorities and evaluate them yearly.
- Use a monthly and weekly calendar.
- Leave white space on the calendar: at least 15 minutes between every task/appointment.
- Review calendar and set up the following week’s schedule on Friday, so the weekend can be enjoyed.
- Sabbath retreat the 31st of each month with 31 days. Solitude, Prayer, Reflection, Planning
- Rest: physical rest (early to bed/early to rise) and the kind of rest that means to quit striving
- Write it down: goals, appointments, thoughts for future, to do…
- Purge: 4 times per year focus on problem area in house and in schedule. Purge.
It takes discipline to be organized. Like most everything worth having in life, organization comes from doing a few things you don’t want to do and making sacrifices. It also takes real desire and want. Not to want to be organized, but to want to have time to live life fully, to enjoy your home, your family, the things you choose to engage in, your friends.
I don’t do it all. I don’t strive to do it all. I seek order, but solely to enable me to care for what I have (be a good steward) and to enjoy life. When all I sought was organization, order and/or perfection, all I got was fatigue, illness and poor attitude. Life and things managed me. I now manage life and things as I follow God’s direction and seek to do only the very BEST things He has placed before me. I can let go of the rest, knowing He has a plan and a time for everything. I’m not missing out. I’m not needing to keep up. I’m getting to live, live fully.