The journey to our new home continues. While I have continued to use my trusty Home Building Binder and Expandable Folder, let me assure you not all has gone as planned. Add to that our crazy moves (two to be exact), and well, it’s been all we expected and more!
My husband and I have built 5 personal homes, counting the current house under construction. We love the process. We get along during the process, which some would say is a testament to our marriage. Of course, there are those who say we are crazy and I am sure there are those who would judge us for spending the money. No comment. We love the process. We have learned from the process. We look forward each time to the construction of the house, but even more to the construction of the home.
Paul and I share the gift of hospitality. We truly believe our home is meant to be used to entertain, welcome, serve, heal and encourage others. We love guests-so yes, if you are reading and want to come visit-COME ON! We have sought to teach our girls to love home-to care for it using principles of biblical stewardship; to spend time in it; to entertain friends; to create in it… We have not built extravagant houses. I have yet to get my Viking Range in my dream kitchen. The Moroccan tile bathroom got nixed. The pantry turned out smaller than planned. One closet was negatively impacted by a failure to realize the door needed to be off center. There are moments of disappointment. There are moments of frustration. So why do we do it? How do we survive it? Simply focus on the home you want to build, not the construction of a house. The house construction will go awry. Subs will make mistakes. Subs will be late. Concrete, boards, sheet rock, duct work, etc… are simply the framework for the house. Yes, it requires planning and attention to detail. But if your focus is on the framework, you’ll end up one frustrated, disappointed, angry person. However, if you focus your attention on the outcome-how you want to LIVE in the home, you’ll be able to let the little things be little things. I can still prepare delicious meals without a Viking. My kitchen can still be filled with light, laughter and love without a Viking Range. The clothes will still fit in the not so perfect closet and it can lead to an opportunity to scavenger the area for a worn armoire to paint, adding some pizzazz and style to a daughter’s room. As we walk through our imperfect construction, we talk about the events we want to host, we talk about where friends will sleep, we talk about pool parties and family holidays. The joy of building comes in dreaming about all that will take place in our home.
We are nearing the end. Three more weeks! We are excited. We are grateful. We are ready to get back to normal-if such a thing exists. But most of all, we are ready to share our home. We are past the little mistakes. We are past the frustration and disappointment. We have our eye on the prize- a framework of a house turned into a home as we live, laugh, play in it. We can’t wait to welcome family, friends and even strangers. We are almost done with construction, but the journey to constructing our home has just begun!
5 Tips for Surviving Construction
1. Plan, plan and then plan some more (see previous post)
2. Communicate with your contractor daily-even if just a short text.
3. Walk through your home with plans in hand every day.
4. Expect mistakes and delays.
5. Spend more time talking about how you will live in the home, than what you want it to look like.