As my girls approach college years, I find myself thinking more and more about the legacy I am leaving them. Often that revolves around memories, behaviors, lifestyle. But things are a part of the legacy too.
I love antiques. We are blessed to have a number of family items. Nothing that would be of much value to anyone else, but they are a part of our family’s history and hold memories. One of the girls has their dad’s mom’s childhood desk. Our dining set, which I have broken up and used throughout the house, is from my mother-in-law. Each girl has a childhood rocker passed down from my family and my husband’s. I love those sorts of things.
I love dishes and hospitality items even more (hence my job as a Mary & Martha Independent Consultant). I have dishes from my grandmother, great grandmother, my husband’s mother, my own collection. Love them all, use them all, and pray my girls find enjoyment in them.
Last year I was challenged by an acquaintance to read through the Bible on behalf of my girls. The challenge spoke to me. I hadn’t read through the entire Bible in a year in quite a while. I journal for my girls, but this spoke to me in a different way. What if I could take two old family bibles and read through them. Not only would I be leaving them notes, highlights and thoughts from my own experiences and knowledge, but I would be leaving them each a Bible- read, used, loved by someone else in the family. That makes my mamma heart happy.
I just finished reading through the first Bible for one of my daughter’s. I chose a Bible we had purchased for my grandmother, who spent a great deal of time with me and my girls. This particular daughter was especially close to my grandmother and had helped pick out this Bible for a Christmas gift. Reading through the Bible on behalf of my daughter was a great experience. On some level it was as if I was reading through the Bible highlighting and noting the things I would want to say to my 16-18 year old self. What did I want her to take note of in scripture? What struggles did I anticipate she might face and what scripture would I want to direct her to? What stories were my favorite and why? It took me a little over a year. My old perfectionist self might have been upset, given up, but being a recovering perfectionist I chose this time to persevere. It was so worth it. I am so glad an acquaintance challenged me. I am glad I took the challenge. I am glad my legacy includes behaviors, beliefs AND things.
In all honesty, it was an emotional journey, so I’m gonna give it a year before I read through for the next daughter. But… I already know which Bible I’ll use. She is named after her grandmother. I was lovingly given one of her daily Bibles when she passed away. It will be the perfect Bible.