I have twin 16 year old daughters. I have loved every season of life with them. I have to say though, there is something very settling about the season we are in right now. They are coming into their own. As a mom, I have the opportunity to begin to see glimpses of the women they will become. I have the opportunity to see the fruits of my labor and know that it was not in vain.
I have never been one to have a ton of friends. Partly due to my personality type. I love my alone time and I’m an introvert. I am also extremely loyal and when I do make friends, true friends, the relationships are lasting, authentic and deep. I have had the opportunity lately to spend more time with my friends. We have been engaged in business, events, sharing difficulties in life. I have also just made a point lately to spend more time with my friends. My daughters have also been spending more time with friends. I love to watch them interact with their friends and see them with this group of girls they have known for years, as well as the new set of friends. They are bound with girls of like faith. They share prayer requests, they share philosophies on dating, they share shopping, they share laughter.
This past week on the ride home from school one of my daughters commented on how much she liked one of my friends and then went on to say how happy she was I had gotten to spend more time with my friends. I asked her why she liked my friends and why it mattered to her if I spent time with them. I don’t think I had ever really given that aspect much thought. Her first comment was that I was happier when I got to be around my friends. Her second comment though was the one that mattered. She went on to tell me she loved my friends because she knew they loved God. She knew they were all really good moms who worked really hard to raise their children and to encourage others. Then she said the golden words. She said she liked my friends because she knew they prayed for her and they cared about my family as much as they cared about me. Yes. She is right.
When our friends are women of faith walking our faith journey with us, in honesty, in integrity, they influence our families and we their families. I am a better person because of this small group of women. My family is a better family because of this small group of women. These are the women who correct me, hold me accountable, rejoice with me, pray with me. These are the women who would pick up my kids in an emergency, bring me food when I am sick and know how much I love chocolate!
As moms our friendships matter. We are often cautious about the friends our daughters choose. Are we as careful about our own friendships? Do we spend time with women who influence us for good? We need to remember the women we choose as friends will influence our families as well. We need to remember that how we live out our friendships sets the example for our daughters. I am so thankful my daughters see the women my friends are. I am so thankful they see my friends as positive role models. I am so thankful my friends enhance my family, make me a better mom and wife.