Friday came and went and clearly I did not blog. We had a full weekend around our home. On Friday, thanks to homeschooling, my daughter and I joined Tacos4Life (read about them here: e5dEbDf1) packing Manna packages to feed the hungry. We went with two other moms and had an absolute blast. And yes, of course lunch was at Tacos4Life. It’s just too good to pass up if you are ever in the Conway, Arkansas area. (AND they are opening one in Fayeteville area soon!) That evening was dinner and movie with my girls and their friend, followed by wedding shower for a former babysitter and then a board meeting on Saturday. Yep, we were busy. But good busy.
I’m not gonna lie. I felt some tinges of guilt all throughout the weekend, knowing that just as I was beginning this Proverbs 31 series, I had already failed to post on a Friday. The old me, the former self, would have piled guilt upon guilt and called it quits, deeming myself a complete failure and incapable of blogging. But the new me, the recovering perfectionist laid the guilt aside and enjoyed all that was this weekend, knowing I could catch up on my blog at a later date. As I pondered on the scripture for this blog and considered the Proverbs 31 woman, I had to laugh, just a little. I couldn’t blog, didn’t blog on Friday because I was in the midst of being a Proverbs 31 woman. And that, is what it’s all about. I can plan. I can strive to accomplish. I can seek perfection. But in the end, who I am is what matters, and each and every step of obedience, and each and every relationship brings me one step closer to being who He wants me to be.
“Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.” Prov. 31: 11 NIV
The Proverbs 31 woman attended to her house, her family and especially to her husband. He knew when he left for work in the morning she too would be attending to her work, the home, the family. He knew she would be working alongside the maidservants caring for all they had, being good stewards of the material possessions, creating a safe haven and place of rest for the family. Nothing in this scripture means they were rich. Nothing in this scripture means she was some sort of genius handling all the family affairs. This scripture simply means this wife was trustworthy, dependable. She was a woman of her word, especially in regards to her family. It also means she kept her priorities. Her husband didn’t have to worry about coming home to chaos, hungry children, and an absent wife. He knew, as sure as he knew there was air to breathe, his wife was putting their family above play, friendships and even ministry. Yes, even ministry. No matter who we are, no matter what we do, nothing changes the priorities as ordained by God. He is first, our family second then our work and ministry. The Proverbs 31 woman kept her priorities and as a result her husband had confidence in her. As a result their home life, their family relationships and their marriage had value.
More often than ought this scripture convicts me and tugs at my heart. I can’t help but think of the times my husband has come home to dirty dishes, no meal planned, upset kids and a less than pleasant wife. I can’t help but think of the trinkets I have squandered money on believing they would somehow make me feel better, have a sense of confidence or impress my neighbor. But there have been good moments too. Sixty dollar savings as a result of coupon clipping. Five nights o meals at home as a result of planning and advance shopping. Furniture and household items still looking new and standing the test of a family of four due to cleaning and maintenance. I want my husband to trust me. I want my husband to know he can believe my words. I want my husband to know I value him, our family and our home above friendships, work and ministry. I want my husband to know I trust him, I honor and respect him. These scripture remind me. These scripture point me to the path worth taking.
Does your husband have confidence in you? If not, is there something you can do to change that? Some of you reading may be in a dark place, a lonely marriage and possibly even a harmful marriage. Please know that God can redeem. If you need to seek shelter and safety do so. God will honor that. He can meet your needs. You can place your confidence in Him. If you are struggling in your marriage and long for more, begin with you. Take one step to do one small thing showing your husband he is priority. It may be as simple as picking up quickly before dinner or seeing that there is a pitcher of his favorite sweet tea.
The journey continues. Remember it’s not a sprint. This Proverbs 31 woman was always growing, always learning and always adjusting with the seasons of life. Her love of God and her commitment to her priorities never wavered. Let’s encourage one another to continue, to keep on, to pursue the heart of God as Proverbs 31 women.