This month Mary & Martha has challenged women to a “No Compare Dare”. It is a timely message for me. And as I have followed others within the company, consultants, and their customers in taking this dare, I am reminded how quickly we as women can become discouraged or defeated by the simple comparison game. Satan knows his way into our lives, and all too often we allow him to take hold. I am guilty.
I Peter 5: 8-10 says, ” Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings, and the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you suffered a little while, will restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.” NIV
In my organizing business my partner and I spend time working with our clients regarding their time management. One of the things we try to impress upon them is the importance of being aware, self-controlled. It is important to know how time is spent, to know how one wants to spend time in order to meet goals, and then make adjustments. Life can’t be lived on auto-pilot. Discipline and self awareness are key to being organized.
One would think that because the above is such a part of my “message” to clients I would not struggle personally with the comparison issue, but oh how I do. In fact, even just yesterday I allowed satan a stronghold in my life, my business. Yesterday I lost two clients (one lost her job the other decided to sell her home in lieu of getting it organized) and had a potential client decline our services in favor of another. When you are a young business, still building, those kind of things seem HUGE! Immediately I began comparing- to others in the organizing business, to friends running their own businesses, etc… The thoughts in my head became negative and self-defeating. Did I lose the jobs because I failed to be alert? No. Did doubt, fear and discouragement set in because I failed to be alert? Yes. I allowed my thoughts to wander and instead of focusing on what was true, bowing my knee in prayer, I opened the door for satan to begin his whispers. I didn’t resist. I didn’t keep my thoughts on the truth. Fortunately I have within my circle women who hold me accountable. In one simple text a dear friend, and business owner I admire snapped me back to reality. Her words were not harsh. They were simple and straight forward. They were spoken in love and with authority. In that moment I became aware. I suddenly became alert, seeing what I had allowed to happen. I didn’t just snap out of it. No, when we let satan in, he’s hard to remove. He isn’t some little pussy cat, no he is a roaring lion. He is on a mission. No, it takes faith, it takes strength and fortitude to make him leave.
My business is my #NOCOMPAREDARE focus. How do I keep satan at bay? The same daily disciplines that keep me focused on the truth, on my priorities.
- Rise early and let His word (scripture) be the first thing to enter my mind.
- Sit in stillness allowing His word, His thoughts to permeate my mind.
- Pray for His will.
- Pray continually, with all thanksgiving.
- Be honest with my sphere of influence so they can hold me accountable, speak truth into my life.
- Be alert throughout the day to shifts in my thinking, my mood…
I dare you. I know you struggle. We all do. The comparison game. It’s so easy. We are bombarded with messages, with visuals via Facebook, Instagram, television, radio, stores, friends… None of us is immune. It will happen. We just need to be alert, to capture the thoughts before they take hold, remembering that satan is the author. Let truth prevail.