Consistency is my word for the year. Let me tell you. We are only in February and wow, is it hard! As I was praying and thinking through my word for the year, I knew that one of my personal issues was “knowing what to do, but not doing it.” I hope you can relate. Surely I am not alone in this. Scripture even speaks to this issue.
I had a number of goals I had not met. As I thought through the “why” I realized two things: First, some goals could not be achieved in a year. They were long term goals which would require long term effort. Secondly, instead of abandoning goals, or setting the same ones over and over, I dug deep to determine some steps I could take to make more progress. In effect, I needed to determine ways I could be more consistent.
Self-discipline is key to achieving goals. But so is accountability! I was lacking accountability in some areas. My health being one such area. You would think that as a mom spending a majority of my time at home homeschooling, and the other managing a part-time organizing business, I would have plenty of time to eat correctly and exercise. NOT! Very little of our home management is delegated, primarily because I am home 50% of the time and not bringing in income to justify delegating. So, I clean my own home, we send out very little laundry/dry cleaning, we eat at home on average 5 nights a week, we care for our pool, we do our own yard… The list goes on. Add those tasks to homeschooling, shopping for supplies, working part-time organizing other people’s spaces and my time is gone.
I am approaching 50. I have upper neck issues and some autoimmune health concerns. Those are not the types of things that get better. My metabolism isn’t going to jump start itself as I age and continue through hormone changes etc… I had a gym membership. I was walking and doing some weight machines, but seeing little results. I decided what I needed was some training and accountability. I was needing at least an hour in the gym to come close to even burning the number of calories I wanted. I knew that with my flexible schedule, relying on classes at the gym would most likely not work. So…. I bit the bullet. I took the plunge and signed up for personal training one time per week. I am not going to lie. I felt guilty. I cringed over the thought of spending the money. I cringed over the idea of someone knowing how out of shape I was. I pushed past all of that. Everyone else in my family has a sport, an event. We invest in that-gladly. It was time for me as mom to invest in me. Not in a selfish way, but in an “improve myself so I could be the very best version of myself” kind of way. I have only had two sessions, but already I can see change. Already I have lost 4 pounds (when you are 49 and menopausal 4 pounds is like 15 in your twenties!). Why is it working? Accountability. I want to “please” my trainer. I don’t want this twenty something, fit young man to think I can’t do it. While the accountability is great, and really is a driving force, I am also learning. His expertise is able to show me ways to challenge my muscles and increase my heart rate all in one single exercise. He is helping me find ways to minimize impact to my neck. He is showing me that in 30 minutes, doing the right things, I can get the same impact, if not greater impact, than my old way of an hour to hour and half at the gym. I can find 30 minutes!
Consistency is hard. If you are struggling to be consistent here are my recommendations:
- Step back and pick one goal as the most important goal for this month. Focus.
- Dig deep. Get honest with yourself. What is keeping you from being consistent.
- Adjust your action steps based upon your answers to number 2.
- Set up an accountability system-whether it is a personal trainer, business coach, life coach, accountability meeting with a friend, establishing a Facebook group etc…
- Learn. Find books/blogs/websites that relate to your goal. Read. Take notes. Identify one to three things per week you can do/add to your weekly regiment.