You Are Enough

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One of the biggest lies I fall prey to is the lie that “I am not enough”.  Some of it stems from years of negative messages, trying to live up to an impossible standard, trying to keep everyone happy and conflict at bay.  Other times I get caught in the comparison trap.  And some days it comes from exhaustion and feeling as though I have nothing else to give.

The truth is we are made to influence-to live in relationships with others, called to the ministry of reconciliation.  God wants to partner with us to influence-to help others enter into a right relationship with Him.  He wants us to experience His fullness.  But too often we are like a water bottle.  We look great, we go to church, we study our bible, we show up and do the work and then we make sure the lid is screwed on tight.  We want to keep it all safe, we want to stay in control.  The problem is when we put the lid on, when we bottle up the knowledge, the lessons, the whispers of hope, we limit what God can do in us and through us.  We are full and over time we stagnate.  The full life, the abundant life only comes when we understand that we have to pour out His truth, allow His spirit working in us and through us to spill over- as we pour out, lead with truth, lead from our core His is able to continuously fill us-it never ends.  Just as with the water bottle.  If you take the lid off and then slowly pour more water into the bottle, the water already in the bottle gently flows out.

The TRUTH.  The TRUTH is that I am enough, only when I am continuously being filled and continuously giving.  I am only giving when I am in relationship, pouring into others and allowing them to pour into me.

You are enough.  You are enough because you are His and He longs to fill you and to empower you to pour out into others.  Be brave.  Be strong.  Be faithful.  Be gracious.  Above all remember He is sufficient and because of that YOU ARE ENOUGH.

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Busyness Does Not Equal Success

I chose to take the week before Easter off and then this week I have been knocked down by a killer sinus infection and bronchitis.  So my week has taken a little detour, but I’m not off track!

TRUTH.  It is amazing when you decide to select a word, pray for God to show you an area to make improvements, how the selection of the word begins to weave a pattern in your life.  The message begins to come at you from all directions and because of your intentionality and awareness you begin to see it bearing fruit in your life.  You begin to realize your own strengths in an area.  The word TRUTH is proving to be just that for me and I am excited to be on this journey, to have an opportunity to share with you what I am learning, coming to accept and finding challenging.  And the truth is, I’m not sure this is going to be a word just for a year.  Each day, each interaction thrusts me into the reality that TRUTH is missing.  There are far too few willing to be truly brave, and speak the TRUTH.  There are too many failing to act in TRUTH despite the words they spray across social media or over microphones.  TRUTH is indeed the core- not just of who we are, but the core strengthening and binding our communities.

The third lie I have wrestled with as a leader is this:  Busyness equals success and if we simply stay busy enough, we can have it all.  Life is fast paced and we expect immediate responses, service, answers, provision.  Tools surround us enabling us to multi-task, work remotely, work around the clock and be in more than one place at a time.  But in all the busyness we have lost site of the TRUTH.

The TRUTH is we can have it all, just not all at once.    God Himself set the example for us throughout scripture-beginning with creation.  God set the world in order over the course of 7 days.  In His infinite power He could have simple spoken it all into existence in one nano second.  But. He. Did. Not.  With focus and purpose He spoke the parts of the Universe into existence one day at a time.  He rested after each, reflecting on what He had just called forth into being.  He savored it, quietly taking it in and proclaiming “it is good.”  The process was as important to Him as the outcome.  And in the end, it was all created, built to sustain and provide for His masterpiece-you and I.  The work, the creation, was all so He could have relationship with us, and us with Him.

So why do we strive so hard?  Why do we attempt to master time management for the sake of efficiency instead of effectiveness?  Why do stay on the treadmill, competing to see who can leave the office latest, whose in-box is the fullest, whose calendar is illegible?   Why?  Because we have lost sight of the TRUTH.  We were not made for accomplishments.  Work was the result of the fall of man-the rift in the relationship with the one true God.  We were made for relationship- with Him and with one another.  We were made to complement one another, no one being greater than or lesser than another.  We were made for the rhythms of creation.  We are meant to rise, to work, to rest, to reflect and to voice our gratitude.  We are meant to walk in daily obedience, letting the worries of tomorrow go and trusting today’s manna to be sufficient.  We are meant to care for and ensure our relationships in all of our roles come first.

I released the busyness lie about 8 years ago.  It was liberating.  How did I do it?  It wasn’t easy.  I grabbed for the old habits often.  But this TRUTH, this next line is what helped me the most.  I am not defined by my accomplishments, my roles or my job.  I am defined by who I am.  And as I have said before, who I am does not change depending on my role.  I am defined by my relationship with my God and judged based upon how I then relate to those placed in my path.  I have learned that I must practice His presence.  God will not shout over the noise and clutter.  His voice is the still small whisper.  He won’t compete for my attention or time.  He won’t fight me for accolades or recognition.  He simply wants time with me to answer my questions, to give me my marching orders.  For every yes, every new task or activity, there must be a no, no longer or a wait.  The decisions aren’t easy, but I can choose what is best over what is good.

When we focus on what is TRUTH, when we quit striving, the daily objectives become clear.  And one day added to another, step by step, the goals get met, the work gets completed.  We get to cherish the process and build relationships.  We eventually get to have it all, just not all at once.

I challenge you to keep a time log over the next three weeks.  (I saw you cringe)  I promise you’ll be glad you did.  Few of us work as many hours as we think we do.  Few of us are as busy as we think we are.  Keep your time log and then begin to time block, giving yourself specific blocks of time to focus on the most important tasks for the day.  For more tips go to my previous post:  https://wordpress.com/post/simplifiedorganizedstyled.com/1837

 

Don’t Adapt-Be You ALL the Time

Adapt.  Accommodate.  Be flexible.  Be open to change.  Evolve.  Those words seem to be the mantra of our day.  Yet those words only promote the company, the cause, the agency.  Those words lead to compromise, the kind of compromise that leads us to define ourselves by our actions, what we do, instead of who we are.  The TRUTH is that in order to live with, lead with integrity we must know our core values and then we must unapologetic-ally stand by those values.  There is nothing gained when I refuse to live the truth and love in truth.  I am who I am and in standing by my core values and being consistent, others can know me more authentically, I am able to make better decisions.

There are lines in the sand.  If I believe that TRUTH matters, and not only seek to follow His TRUTH, but hold TRUTH as a value, I will not lie or “spin” something in order to hide the facts.  Could the value cost me position?  Yes.   But will the TRUTH cost me my identity?  No.

Sadly, I have been the chameleon.  I have adapted and accommodated.  More often than not I have simply turned a blind eye or held my tongue.  Sadly I see too many chameleons – at work, in church, in acquaintanceship.  Fortunately, I have chosen not to be the chameleon more often.  As I have had the privilege of entering this second season career I have been committed to doing it better, being authentic, being braver.   I have chosen to know my values, my TRUTH.  I have chosen to lead in TRUTH and I have challenged our team to set values, one of which is TRUTH.  There is no value in blending in.  Being true to my TRUTH sets me apart, but it doesn’t mean I’m disruptive or unyielding.  It simply means I bring myself, my talents, my gifts, my strengths to influence.  It means I am known, truly known.

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My TRUTH is centered on God’s Word and is a reflection of my faith.  My TRUTH remains the same whether I am at home with my family, at work leading, serving in my community or participating in worship at my church.  My TRUTH centers me, it gives me a true north by which to assess information, make decisions.  My TRUTH sets me apart and sets me up for success.  My TRUTH protects me.

As you join me in the pursuit of TRUTH, challenge yourself to be you ALL THE TIME.  Know your TRUTH.  If you feel lost, I encourage you to search scripture for TRUTH, don’t try to navigate this life without an anchor and a rudder.  It is not all relative.  Every thought, every word, every action matters, and it matters most to you, to the you, you are becoming.